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January 26, 2020

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This section of the website is designed to help parents (and all adults) develop a balanced approach to making sure that they and their children learn healthy brain habits. It teaches thinking skills and emotional control skills that can provide the cognitive basis for a modern humanistic secular philosophy of life.

Also, you can use the organized brain information to provide reliable brain knowledge for dealing with any personal or family life relationship issues. It includes brain information related to applying science-based best-practices parenting principles and skills.

The bonus for using this new brain information is that what is good for the brains of children is also good for the hearts of children. Children need to exercise regularly, eat nutritious foods, get enough sleep, and challenge their brains on a daily basis to solve difficult problems by using modern critical thinking skills and critical reading strategies.

To be a humanist parent is to be able to use your intellectual intelligence (IQ) and your emotional intelligence (EQ) to reason effectively with your children for the purpose of creating a fulfilling philosophy of life for yourself and for your children based upon modern principles of neuroscience within a secular context of human history.

As a humanist parent (or any adult) responsible for teaching children, you need to create balance in your own life and cope with the challenges of being a role model of responsibility for the children in your care. You can create more resilience and less confusion in family life or in the classroom: which means more cognitive reserve (brainpower) and less cognitive dissonance (disruptions).

The goal of increasing cognitive reserve means that you can prepare yourself for emergencies and also provide yourself with the basis for fulfilling family interactions. It means that you can increase the variety and the density of the neuronal connections throughout your brain and nervous system by doing a variety of interesting and challenging new activities on a daily basis.

And you can teach your children to do the same.

Children must be trained to satisfy their own age-related developmental needs for physical, intellectual, and emotional growth through the predictable developmental stages and the teachable moments of their young lives. This task is much easier for kids when they see their parents and teachers modeling healthy responsible adult behavior within their family or classroom.

The new mindfulness brain mindset can motivate behavior associated with the rational liberal humanistic values of respect for diversity and a revulsion for all kinds of prejudice. This involves showing respect and empathy for those with biases related to agism, employment discrimination, ethnicity, gender, race, and diverse sexual orientations of all kinds. The reason is that most people are not consciously aware that they have harmful implicit biases:

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Conversely, the idea of reducing cognitive dissonance in your own life, and in the lives of your children, refers to the need for parents to teach their children how to conscientiously cope with negative emotional feelings and social problems. Such serious problems can include emotional traumas and excessive stress as well as disruptive TV and online advertisements and adult subject matter on cable and network TV programs. All those distractions can in their own peculiar ways become menaces to their children's brains.

Parents with emotional problems, such as bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder, instead of being responsible caregivers for their children, can become dysfunctional role models for them. Such examples of bad adult behavior can have lifelong adverse impacts on the mental and emotional development of children. This is because of the importance of imitative behavior for children and the injurious impacts of extreme emotional stress and trauma on the immune systems of young children.

In addition, the mind-numbing assault on the brains of children by the ubiquitous mass media and the addictive social media with their omnipresent advertisements and commercials can seriously damage young brains by causing memory problems. Also, the frequently violent movie TV advertisements and trailers, which are still permitted during prime time family TV viewing times, are particularly bad for conditioning children to violence and unethical behavior, such as when guns are used in films or on TV to assert power.

Unfortunately, those movie advertisements and other loud attention-demanding commercials compete with educational programs for the precious limited awake-time that children have during their childhoods. The limited time children have for independent educational pursuits and deeper thinking can be further jeopardized by the bombardment of noisy TV programs and addictive video games. Their educations can be further challenged by the lack of face-to-face human contacts as children spend more of their discretionary time looking at their hand-held devices and straining their eyes and necks concentrating on screens: called "screen time."

Also, if children were not constantly pressured to waste so much of their time and youth paying attention to very appealing but often unessential media commercials, they could become more enthusiastic about gaining an understanding of science, history, politics, art, and even their own health.

Also, they might get more motivated to understand how their brains work!

When the brains of children are distracted so much of the time, their lives can be reduced to simplistic habits despite the fact that they need to be developing an appreciation for the complexity of modern global civilization as they grow up in the most complicated societies in human history.


The fundamental Humanist Parenting Principle is that parents need to give their children the instruction and the reinforcements they need to keep their brains and minds and bodies healthy for a lifetime of challenges and changes. To achieve this important humanistic family objective, the new brain ideas should be continuously discussed within the family context at all ages.

All family members can participate and contribute to the quality of family life by being encouraged to communicate and share brain facts. Brain facts can help children optimize their brain functions during the known sequence of predictable ages and stages of childhood growth factors.

Now it is possible to teach the essential introductory linguistic foundation of the new brain vocabulary even to toddlers and young children so they will be prepared to enter nursery school and kindergarten with clearly understood scientific and humanistic values.

For example, when started early in the family context, children can easily identify their brain and distinguish it from their mind or cognitive ability, which is their brainpower (mental force). Children can learn to depend on true knowledge rather than false (unreal) metaphorical explanations of the various meanings of their lives. They can learn to depend on the true source of their genuine emotions and their genuine thoughts when they are associated in their long-term memories with genuine brain facts instead of being confused by metaphors that sound true (because of the linguistic structure of the English language) but are not!

Metaphors usually do not define reality accurately (completely). And traditional (ancient) metaphors relating to the human bain are wrong! So are silly fantastical fairytale depictions of reality in such popular Disney movies and DVDs of them. This means that the source of children’s basic knowledge about reality should come directly from their personal relationships and physical environments. This includes primarily their own physical bodies and interactions with other people. They need to know that the unique modern brain knowledge will give them an intellectual advantage in the future.

The new brain knowledge can help children learn how to control their thoughts and feelings better by using the most important brain ideas ever discovered during the past 40-50 thousand years of human history. Now, parents and teachers can use the new brain vocabulary to teach children progressive mindfulness skills based upon the conscious self-awareness of their true cognitive functions.

This educational process can involve the use of checklists to empower children to keep track of their activities and responsibilities on a daily or weekly basis. Also, their achievements and plans and expectations can be discussed regularly in the family in constructive ways. Children need to rehearse positive lifestyles and make important decisions about how they can use their free time better to learn better ways of studying and playing.

And children can learn to be more responsible for their decisions by using their creative imaginations to think about any past mistakes. They can learn by mindfully thinking about the consequences of their past decisions and by imagining the kind of decisions that might have had better outcomes and made them happier and wiser now and in the future --- if their decisions and experiences had been different in the past.

Parents and caretakers can encourage children to do collaborative thinking about important behavior and values within the context of loving kindness every day. This humanistic secular "whole brain" linguistic context [mindfulness frame of reference) can give you a reliable way to guide the behavior of your children and also evaluate the results of your parenting practices.

For example, the young brains of children need to be protected from the daily exposure to the incessant advertisements in addition to the unlimited video games on their computers, TV sets, phones and other hand-held devices. Parental advice can be discussed about the threats to healthy brain development at regular weekly family interactive sharing and planning meetings.

You can consistently teach children not to be distracted by the mass media and social media advertisements and online shopping choices. And you can make a mental note or written list of the number of times you have reminded them to stop focusing on screens and start making more face-to-face contact with family members and their friends.

This kind of checklist or "bullet-journal" thinking is just as important for parents to do as for children within the family support system.

Today, when a child's success in life depends more than ever before on learning independent thinking skills and emotionally intelligent reasoning skills, it is vitally important to teach them how to determine the rational benefits and probable risks of their decisions by learning and using critical thinking skills and critical reading strategies. After they learn the new cognitive reality of their own brainpower (mental force). they will be empowered to become leaders and able to create the future.

The more time children use for thinking and reading within the family, the better their brains will become. In this regard, the overall function of humanist parents and teachers is to teach children to make good choices based upon reasoning rather than blind obedience to rules.

WHY THIS MATTERS: This website can help humanist parents teach their children the new "whole-brain" thinking approach to the scientific understanding of brain structures and mental functions. It is the best way for humanist parents to integrate the new brain knowledge into family life to produce responsible and resilient family members. The new brain knowledge provides the best protection for children since kids are the most vulnerable targets of the many dangerous cultural influences aimed at them both online and offline.

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RECOMMENDATION: You may print this pdf version and read it and edit it by adding or deleting ideas. Then, you can read your edited version of these ideas according to a reinforcement schedule, such as a few hours later and a few days later and then several times in the next week or two. This strategy can help you take advantage of the power of the spaced-repetition method of memorization. Such deep introspection can change your adaptive self-identity and increase your self-esteem (positive emotions about yourself)

You Are Your Adaptable Memory!

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